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凑巧了,Travis Bradberry博士,Emotional Intelligence 2.0 的作者,有篇旧文被Linkedin什么朋友翻出来了:
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/w ... 2BVSJiJtMucMg%3D%3D
文中也引了福特的名言。
有些关于内心强大(原文作“真正自信”)的描述值得我们借鉴和思考:
People who brim with confidence derive their sense of pleasure and satisfaction from their own accomplishments, as opposed to what other people think of their accomplishments. Small victories build new androgen receptors in the areas of the brain responsible for reward and motivation. The increase in androgen receptors increases the influence of testosterone, which further increases their confidence and eagerness to tackle future challenges. Instead of seeing interactions as opportunities to prove themselves to others, they focus on the interaction itself, because they know that this is a far more enjoyable and productive approach to people. Fear doesn’t hold them back because they know that if they never try, they will never succeed. Confident people aren’t afraid to be proven wrong. They like putting their opinions out there to see if they hold up because they learn a lot from the times they are wrong and other people learn from them when they’re right. Self-assured people know what they are capable of and don’t treat being wrong as a personal slight. Instead of insecurely focusing inward, confident people focus outward, which allows them to see all the wonderful things that other people bring to the table. Praising people for their contributions is a natural result of this. 并非说他说的都对,而是可以从中看到不同的人对待人生的态度差异,我们需要有足够的自信包容别人与我们的意见相左;并且简单的做我们自己,而是总是要把标签给别人或者给自己钉上。这事很难,但是只要我们开始起步,我们就会越来越知道自己在不断提高自我认知,这就好过我们在想着如何比别人先跑半步。
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